GET HAPPY NOW

GET HAPPY NOW - Ten Steps to Happiness

Excerpt

(Extracted from Chapter 1 – Happiness in accepting yourself as you are)

“When I can accept my own lapses of ethics and moralities and not

see them as a danger to my existence, I will be more tolerant of lapses

in others. When I admit that I am as fallible as the next person is to

make errors, I will stop striking a noble pose and be more understanding.”

At times, there is nothing easier than to adopt a “noble” attitude towards the people around us. We see a fault being committed somewhere and we turn up our nose at it. We see something that does not appeal to our sense of moralities and we feel disgusted with the person responsible. If instead of being judgmental, one were to look deeper within one’s own self, to find out what it is in the act committed by the other person that is so odious to our sensibilities, we may realize that it is due to the knowledge within us that we too are fallible to committing the same breach of morality.

For instance, when I was disgusted with something that my neighbor’s teen aged son just said to his father, I found on reflection that it was due to the knowledge that sometime in my life, I too had behaved similarly with my father.

It is the knowledge of our own weaknesses & limitations that disgusts us when we see the same being acted out by somebody else. And we subconsciously defend our own limitations (past or present) by standing in judgment on others.

When you can accept your own lapses of ethics and moralities and not see them as a danger to your existence, you will be more tolerant of lapses in others. When you can admit that you are as fallible as the next person is to make errors, you will stop being judgmental altogether, and will instead be more understanding – of yourself in the first instance, and then of others.

You may have seen that whenever you try to eschew a particular strain of thought, it actually takes deeper root in your mind. The more you try to suppress a particular feeling, to put down a particular urge, the more it grows within you. This is especially true when you are trying to suppress a “Negative” feeling. Though momentarily you may succeed in putting the urge down, ultimately it grows in strength till it is beyond your control.

Instead of ignoring this feeling, try bringing it out from the recesses of your sub-conscious to deal with it. Satisfy yourself that this “Negative” feeling is a part of you, even though “Negative”. You may find it easier to accept this feeling then, allowing your mind the freedom to pursue the Positives.

To kill your Negatives, you have first to accept them!

 

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